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Talking during sex is a nice way to nurture sexual intimacy in a relationship. But bedroom conversation is uncomfortable for many. A post on the Gottoman Institute Relationship Blog a few years ago, (the post isn’t there any longer)  told of a…

Want to grow your practice? Interested in growing your therapy skills? Consider couples therapy as a specialty and train in Emotionally Focused Therapy. The way to becoming an EFT therapist is through ICEEFT, the umbrella organization for EFT therapy in North America. The…

AshleyMadison.com is an online dating site that invites people in committed relationships to “have an affair, life is short.” Last August the website’s database was leaked, exposing 30 million customers’ personal information. For a few weeks the internet was rife…

Successful cross-cultural couples are curious about their partner’s culture. They don’t presume their partner shares their assumptions about how things should be in a relationship. They delight in exploring their differences, and this helps them steer their way through many differences and misunderstandings.

But partners in a healthy cross-cultural […]

Is internet porn adversely affecting someone you know? The airwaves in both the US and Canada have been giving this topic a good amount of “fear-mongering” attention of late. So perhaps it comes as no surprise that “The Highs and…

So, you’re a committed couple. Congratulations! You live together. Great! But you’re talking about sleeping in separate beds. And you’re worried this will bode poorly for your relationship. Competing studies about this very issue come to different conclusions. A Wall…

“It’s the biological clock, you know. I only have three years left. After that I’ll have trouble getting pregnant,” says a 32-year-old woman in my office for the first time. Her eyes say, “help!” Her partner jumps right in. “That’s…

Core values. Mission statements. They help define how and why an organization ticks. Here’s how Couples In Step ticks. Core Values at Couples In Step Mindlessness, not malice, is responsible for your problems. Neither of you intended for your relationship…

Here’s a bit of my journey to becoming an EFT couples therapist. September, 2006 saw me heading to Ottawa to attend a couple’s therapist training. I am a couple’s therapist so nothing unusual in that. I was distracted though, that…

Typically it’s a significant health care concern of some kind that gets most people into an fMRI machine. Imagine that instead of a health care concern, it’s your participation in a research study that gets you into an fMRI machine.…