Emotionally Focused Therapy results in meaningful change for the long haul, not just problem solving in the immediate moment.
Relationships form the core of human experience. From cradle to grave humans in nurturing and emotionally responsive relationships are happier and healthier.
Intuitively we know that children have an inborn need and innate ability to bond, or attach to their parents. Fifty years of research on the parent-child bond has demonstrated this conclusively.
Thirty years ago attachment researchers turned their attention to adult love relationships.With each passing year to this field of research is establishing that adults also thrive when they are deeply bonded to other adults.
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: What Is It?
EFT – Emotionally Focused Therapy is credited to Dr. Susan Johnson, Ph.D. from Ottawa. Until 2010 Dr. Johnson’s work was only available in professional journals. In 2010 Dr. Johnson published Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and in 2014 Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships was published
Intuitively we know it is important for children to have a safe and secure bond with their parents. Research supports intuition. Fifty years of research on attachment theory, as this field of inquiry is called, has demonstrated conclusively that children thrive when they are safely and securely attached to their parents or caregivers.
Twenty years ago attachment researchers turned their attention to adult love relationships. With each passing year research continues to establish that adults also thrive when they are deeply bonded to other adults.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: Core Premise
The longing to connect is the motivating impetus in adult love relationships. But sometimes wanting and intention isn’t enough, and couples struggle.
EFT, or Emotionally Focused Therapy is for couples who want to break away from the cycle of arguing, blaming, silence, and frustration. It is for couples who want to reconnect.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: Does it Work?
Research demonstrates that emotionally fulfilling relationships are vital for mental and physical health.
Dr. John Gottman, North America’s best-known marriage researcher, with whom Irene Oudyk-Suk, the founder of Couples In Step has also trained, writes that, “EFT is a proven road map to the process of change in couple therapy.”
The American Psychological Association notes that EFT has achieved an astounding 75% success rate with lasting results!
Dr. Susan Johnson, Ph.D is one of the original researchers behind Emotionally Focused Couple’s Therapy. Until 2010 Dr. Johnson’s work was only available in professional journals. In 2010 Dr. Johnson published Hold Me Tight and in 2014, Love Sense, both engaging books for the general public.
You can learn more about Dr. Johnson and the EFT approach from the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) website.
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Couples In Step Therapists are EFT Trained
At Couples in Step, we believe Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) provides a sound and meaningful path toward helping couples reconnect. Founder Irene Oudyk-Suk is a certified EFT therapist and supervisor whose extensive experience bears out the EFT clinical studies that boast a 75% success rate.
All Couples in Step therapists are equally committed to employing EFT as a proven method of helping couples.
Nearly Every Couple Faces Challenges
Sometimes the difficulties can get so over whelming they can make both of you feel helpless. In our stress-filled, anxiety-driven lives it helps to talk with a professional about your relationship. Couples In Step offers a variety of services to help couples repair and revive their relationship: in-person counselling, on-line counselling, 3-day intensive couples counselling for couples in crisis, weekend couples retreats, discernment counselling for couples where one, or both of you, are uncertain about continuing the relationship.