EFT: Emotionally Focused Therapy
Meaningful change for the long haul, not just problem solving in the immediate moment.
Relationships form the core of human experience. From cradle to grave humans are happier and healthier in nurturing and emotionally responsive relationships.
Intuitively we know that children have an inborn need and innate ability to bond, or attach to their caregivers. Fifty years of research on the parent-child bond has irrefutably demonstrated that children thrive when they are safely and securely attached to their parents or caregivers.
Thirty years ago attachment researchers turned their attention to adult love relationships. With each passing year research is conclusively establishing that adults too, thrive when they are deeply bonded to other adults.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: What Is It?
The longing to connect is the motivating impetus in adult love relationships. But sometimes wanting and intention isn’t enough, and couples struggle.
EFT, or Emotionally Focused Therapy, is for couples who want to break away from the cycle of arguing, blaming, silence, and frustration. It is for couples who want to reconnect.
EFT is credited to Dr. Susan Johnson, Ph.D. from Ottawa. Until 2010 Dr. Johnson’s work was only available in professional journals. Since then Dr. Johnson has published two books written for the general public: Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships.
In 2017 Dr. Johnson was invested into the Order Of Canada for her pioneering work on Emotionally Focused Couple’s Therapy.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: Does it Work?
Research demonstrates that emotionally fulfilling relationships are vital for mental and physical health.
Dr. John Gottman, North America’s best-known marriage researcher, with whom Irene Oudyk-Suk, the founder of Couples In Step has also trained, writes that, “EFT is a proven road map to the process of change in couple therapy.”
Division 12 of the American Psychological Association (APA), is responsible for evaluating the empirical support for mental health treatments. It recently rerated EFT and awarded EFT its highest rating based on their 1998 standard. In 2015 Division 12 of the APA developed new, more stringent, criteria by which it evaluates empirical support. ICEEFT, the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, has submitted materials to the APA for review under the new more stringent 2015 criteria and that review is currently scheduled.
Couples In Step Therapists are EFT Trained
At Couples in Step, we believe Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) provides a sound and meaningful path toward helping couples reconnect. Founder Irene Oudyk-Suk is a certified EFT therapist and supervisor whose extensive experience bears out the EFT clinical studies that consistently supports the effectiveness of the EFT model.
Certification in EFT is rigorous. Therapists who see Couples In Step clients are committed to achieving EFT certification.
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Nearly Every Couple Faces Challenges
Sometimes the difficulties can get so over whelming they can make both of you feel helpless. In our stress-filled, anxiety-driven lives it helps to talk with a professional about your relationship. Couples In Step offers a variety of services to help couples repair and revive their relationship: in-person counselling, on-line counselling, 3-day intensive couples counselling for couples in crisis, weekend couples retreats, discernment counselling for couples where one, or both of you, are uncertain about continuing the relationship.