Current couple dynamics are sometimes affected by earlier life experiences. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) may be helpful.
In situations of infidelity an injured partner will frequently have trauma symptoms: nightmares, anxiety, flashbacks distressing and all-consuming thoughts. EMDR can help with symptom reduction.
Exactly when and how EMDR is used as part of couple’s counselling is a decision between you, your partner and your therapist. Sometimes both partners are present. Sometimes only one partner attends. This is generally not a beginning treatment intervention at Couples In Step. Someday I’ll write more about that in a blog post.
Couples In Step therapists Lori and Irene are certified EMDR therapists.