What’s a Hold Me Tight® Retreat?

Next Hold Me Tight®
Online Oct. 30-31, Nov. 6-7, 2020
Friday 6-9:30pm, Saturday 10am-1:30pm

A Hold Me Tight® couples experience  is designed to deepen your engagement and connection with each other. You’ll learn from lectures, video examples of other couples & YouTube clips. Private conversations with your partner will help you to gently and safely explore your unique destructive relationship patterns and you’ll practice new communication patterns that build trust, love, and intimacy.

This retreat is based on the science of love (yes love and science go hand in hand) and Emotionally Focused Therapy.  You’ll learn alongside other couples, without sharing the specifics of your relationship with the other couples and no requirement to participate in group sharing!

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Next Hold Me Tight®
Online Oct. 30-31, Nov. 6-7, 2020
Friday 6-9:30pm, Saturday 10am-1:30pm

Who Attends Hold Me Tight® Retreats?

This retreat is for you if:

  • You want to take a deep dive into the workings of your relationship.

  • You want to spend quality & focused time with your partner.

  • You find yourself in the same disagreement over and over again.

  • You feel like you spend more time in conflict than in good times.

  • You are worried your relationship is slipping away.

  • You want to have a stronger relationship.

Most couples are committed and looking to deepen, rekindle or heal their relationship. Some are at the beginning of their relationship, some ten years in, some many more years in.

A few couples come uncertain about the future of their relationship. Some come wondering if their relationship could benefit from the deeper work of couple’s therapy.

Same sex couples come, dating couples come, couples in their second or third relationship come, married or un-married couples come, therapists wondering about couples counselling come… get the picture?

Hold Me Tight® retreats help couples with virtually every concern, and whatever place they are at in their relationship. Amazing, and certainly not what Irene expected when she started doing these retreats, but that’s what she (and her colleagues across the world) have found!

And es, the group nature of Hold Me Tight®couples retreats is anxiety provoking. Rest assured, there is a lot of private couple time at a Hold Me Tight® retreat and you will not be required to be an active participant in the larger group times. You can learn more about the structure of a Hold Me Tight® on the retreats FAQ’s page.

Upcoming Retreats


Hold Me Tight®

Online October 30 & 31; November 6 & 7, 2020

Friday 6-9:30pm, Saturday 10am-1:30pm


Lasting Connection™

Online, Spring, 2021

5 Thursdays, 7-9pm


Touch & Physical Intimacy

Online, 2 weekends, Spring, 2021

Friday 6-9pm, Saturday 10am-1pm


Hold Me Tight®

In-Person, Toronto, postponed for now


Lasting Connection™

In-Person, Toronto, postponed for now


Touch & Physical Intimacy

In-Person, Caledon, postponed for now

Don’t take our word  for it. Here’s what others have said about their experience at a Couples In Step Hold Me Tight® retreat.

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Communication Tool — The Lasting Connection™ Mat

At the The Hold Me Tight® retreat you’ll use the circles on the  Lasting Connection™  mat to clarify and deepen the messages you’re sending your partner.  Your partner, also on the mat, will use the mat’s rectangles as prompts to tune into what you’re trying to communicate. The  Lasting Connection™  mat will help you practice communication tools for when communication breaks down.

Build A Lasting Connection Mat

Next Hold Me Tight®
Online Oct. 30-31, Nov. 6-7, 2020
Friday 6-9:30pm, Saturday 10am-1:30pm

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The Mat--Building A Lasting Connection

Details for Online Hold Me Tight®

  • Two weekends, Fridays 6 – 9:30pm and Saturdays 10 – 1:30pm

  • You’ll each need to be in the same location

  • You’ll each receive a zoom invite to your email prior to the scheduled start time. Please sign into zoom on one device (laptop works best!)

  • Further information related to technical requirements

  • Plan on having empty floor space behind you on which you can lay down your 8×4’Lasting Connection™ mat

Details for In-Person Hold Me Tight®

  • Postponed for now, Friday 2–6pm, Saturday 9:30–4pm, Sunday 1–5pm

  • Lunch on Saturday: bring your own or delivered via Uber Eats at your expense

  • Location: Lawrence Park Community Church, 2180 Bayview, Toronto (just south of Lawrence, across from Sunnybrook Hospital). Though this is a church there is not a religious focus at this retreat.

What a Hold Me Tight® Retreat Meant to this  Couple

Here’s what others have said about their experience at a Couples In Step retreat.

Online October 30, 31 & November 6-7, 2020

Limited to 8 couples

Registration Deadlines Retreat Fee Materials* Total*
Before October 5, 2020 $419 $200* $619* Per Couple
October 5 – October 11, 2020 $429 $200* $629*Per Couple
October 12 – October 25, 2020 $449 $200* $649* Per Couple
Registration closes Sunday October 25, 2020  at 11:55 pm

*Materials cost is refunded with the return of the Lasting Connection™ mat (in good condition) to Couples In Step

Registration Deadlines   

Before October 5, 2020  – Retreat Fee – $419 – Materials* – $200* – Total – $619* Per Couple

October 5 – October 11, 2020  – Retreat Fee – $429 – Materials – $200* – Total – $629* Per Couple

October 12 – October 25, 2020  – Retreat Fee – $449 – Materials – $200* – Total – $649* Per Couple

Registration closes Sunday October 25, 2020 at 11:55 pm
*Materials cost is refunded with the return of the Lasting Connection™ (in good condition) to Couples In Step

Discounts

Please note that discounts cannot be combined. You will have an opportunity to add in the discount code as you conclude the registration process. The discount amount will be subtracted from your final amount due.

Couples currently in couples therapy with another therapist are eligible for a $75 discount/couple. Discount code is MHP75

Mental health professionals/health professionals are eligible for a $50 discount. Discount code is HP50

You are eligible for a $125 discount if you have been or are currently in couples therapy at Couples In Step. Discount code is CP125

For couples residing in Ontario a medical receipt will be distributed at the conclusion of the retreat and may be submitted to your insurance for reimbursement. The materials cost is not included in the medical receipt you receive.

Times and Other Details

Times: Friday 6 pm-9:30 pm, Saturday 10 am-1:30 pm

Internet: You’ll need to be in the same location. You will need access to a laptop or a desktop, an internet connection with good bandwidth and a private location. You’ll each receive a zoom invite to your email prior to the scheduled start time. Please sign into zoom on one device (laptop or desktop is best). Check out additional technical requirements

In addition to the technical considerations plan on having empty floor space behind you on which you can lay down your 8×4’Lasting Connection™ mat

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In-Person Toronto,  2021

Fees likely to be reduced in a covid environment with reduced food & beverage service

Registration Deadlines Retreat Fee Materials* Total
Before___, 2021 $715 $204 $919 Per Couple
___-___, 2021 $745 $204 $949 Per Couple
___-___, 2021 $785 $204 $989 Per Couple
Registration closes Sunday___, 2021  at 11:55 pm

*Materials cost includes the venue charges, workbooks, Saturday and Sunday lunch, snacks, beverages. Does not include overnight accommodation.

Registration Deadlines   

Before ___ , 2021  – Retreat Fee – $715 – Materials* – $204 – Total – $919 Per Couple

___-___, 2021  – Retreat Fee – $745 – Materials* – $204 – Total – $949 Per Couple

___-___, 2021  – Retreat Fee – $785 – Materials* – $204 – Total – $989 Per Couple

Registration closes Sunday ___, 2021 at 11:55 pm

*Materials cost includes the venue charges, workbooks, Saturday and Sunday lunch, snacks, beverages. Does not include overnight accommodation.

Discounts

Please note that discounts cannot be combined. You will have an opportunity to add in the discount code as you conclude the registration process. The discount amount will be subtracted from your final amount due.

Couples currently in couples therapy with another therapist are eligible for a $75 discount/couple. Discount code is MHP75

Mental health professionals/health professionals are eligible for a $50 discount. Discount code is HP50

You are eligible for a $125 discount if you have been or are currently in couples therapy at Couples In Step. Discount code is CP125

Please note that discounts cannot be combined. You will have an opportunity to add in the discount code as you conclude the registration process. The discount amount will be subtracted from your final amount due.

A medical receipt will be distributed at the conclusion of the retreat and may be submitted to your insurance for reimbursement. Materials cost is not included on the medical receipt.

Times and location

Times: Friday 2:00pm-6:00pm, Saturday 9:30am-4:00pm, Sunday 1:00pm-5:00 pm.

Location: Lawrence Park Community Church, 2180 Bayview, Toronto (just south of Lawrence, across from Sunnybrook Hospital). Though this is a church there is not a religious focus at this retreat.

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Hold Me Tight® Retreats at Couples In Step

Since 2012 Couples In Step has hosted more than 250 couples in more than 20 Hold Me Tight® retreats in the Toronto area.

Couples In Step offers in-person Hold Me Tight® retreats twice a year, in the spring and the fall. They begin on Friday afternoon at 2 pm and conclude late Sunday afternoon. You’ll stay in a nearby hotel or bed and breakfast (accommodation costs are not included in the retreat fee). During 2020 (due to Covid) there was only one in-person Hold Me Tight® retreat.

Couples In Step will offer the first online Hold Me Tight® Fall 202o.

Irene Oudyk-Suk, MSW, RSW RP, is the facilitator of this weekend retreat for couples. Irene and her husband first experienced a Hold Me Tight® retreat as participants in early 2012. A few months later Irene facilitated her first Hold Me Tight®.

Hold Me Tight® registrants have come from all over the United States and Canada. In Ontario couples come from places such as Toronto, GTA, Hamilton, Windsor, London, Thunder Bay, Sudbury, Kingston, Ottawa, Waterloo, Mississauga, Brampton, New Market and other places in between. Couples have also come from other provinces such as Quebec, Alberta, New Brunswick and Newfoundland.

Hold Me Tight® retreats are held at many other locations in North America.

Hold Me Tight® is a registered trademark to Sue Johnson.  The Hold Me Tight® retreat is based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Dr. Johnson’s bestseller book, Hold Me Tight®, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.

Winter 2021, Toronto, ON fees

Registration Deadlines Retreat Fee Materials* Total
Before ___,2021  Per Couple
___-___, 2021  Per Couple
___-___, 2021  Per Couple
Registration closes Sunday ___, 2021 at 11:55 pm

*Materials cost includes the venue charges, workbooks, Saturday and Sunday lunch, snacks, beverages. Does not include overnight accommodation.

Registration Deadlines   

Before ___  – Retreat Fee – $ – Materials* – $ – Total – $ Per Couple

___ – ___ – Retreat Fee – $ – Materials* – $ – Total – $ Per Couple

___  – ___  – Retreat Fee – $ – Materials* – $ – Total – $ Per Couple

Registration closes Sunday ___, 2021 at 11:55 pm

*Materials cost includes the venue charges, workbooks, Saturday and Sunday lunch, snacks, beverages. Does not include overnight accommodation.

Discounts

Please note that discounts cannot be combined. You will have an opportunity to add in the discount code as you conclude the registration process. The discount amount will be subtracted from your final amount due.

Couples currently in couples therapy with another therapist are eligible for a $75 discount/couple. Discount code is MHP75

Mental health professionals/health professionals are eligible for a $50 discount. Discount code is HP50

You are eligible for a $125 discount if you have been or are currently in couples therapy at Couples In Step. Discount code is CP125

Please note that discounts cannot be combined. You will have an opportunity to add in the discount code as you conclude the registration process. The discount amount will be subtracted from your final amount due.

A medical receipt will be distributed at the conclusion of the retreat and may be submitted to your insurance for reimbursement. Materials cost is not included on the medical receipt.

Times and location

Times: Friday 2:00pm-6:00 pm, Saturday 9:30am-4:00pm, Sunday 1:00pm-5:00pm.

Location: Lawrence Park Community Church, 2180 Bayview, Toronto (just south of Lawrence, across from Sunnybrook Hospital). Though this is a church there is not a religious focus at this retreat.

Registration Not Yet Live

Nearly Every Couple Faces Challenges

Sometimes the difficulties can get so over whelming they can make both of you feel helpless. In our stress-filled, anxiety-driven lives it helps to talk with a professional about your relationship. Couples In Step offers a variety of services to help couples repair and revive their relationship: in-person counselling, on-line counselling, 3-day intensive couples counselling for couples in crisis, couples retreats, discernment counselling for couples where one, or both of you, are uncertain about continuing the relationship.

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