My wife and I participated in the Couples In Step weekend, upon the suggestion of our adoption worker. Although I was skeptical coming in, I was thankful on the way out.
My wife and I had thought we had previously had every possible conversation about our relationship before this weekend (been married many years), but the weekend brought out one or two that were quite worthwhile.
It is the whole environment of the retreat which provides a wonderful backdrop of openness, safety, willingness to speak and be spoken to both by the moderators, your partner, and the other participants.
We enjoyed the other participants as much as anything about the weekend; their views, their openness, and their willingness to be frank and be there for each other. We found ourselves missing the other couples we had met, the town where it was held, and even the place we stayed. Everything had a way of knitting itself into the memory and lingering thoughts.We even found ourselves discussing the subject matter of the seminars and discussions in the following weeks.
In retrospect I can see that for couples planning to marry this would be a very beneficial event to attend. They’ll benefit from those who have experienced a lot of what they will experience over the coming years. I highly recommend this retreat as a way to connect. You’ll also find others with similar experiences.
Attachment is the key to relationships, as we have learned both in the world of adoption and the world of marriage.