As experienced couples therapists, we recognize the challenges couples can face in their relationship and we know how to help. With our professional support, couples therapy sessions are dedicated times for you and your partner to focus on improving your relationship.
At the first session together, you get the opportunity to share your relationship history with your therapist. Each of you can talk about the reasons you have for seeking couples counselling and your hopes and goals for therapy.
Generally, the first three or four sessions can be thought of as assessment sessions. You’ll assess the therapist to determine if the therapist will be helpful to you. In turn, your therapist will also be gathering information that will help in determining the direction forward.
Most often the first one or two sessions are joint sessions. Your therapist will then meet with each of you individually for a session.
Repetitive communication patterns keep partners stuck. During our sessions, we will slow down the conversations you have with each other, consider how your patterns impact one another, and what part each of you plays in your established dynamic. In time, you will come to appreciate how over the years you’ve been caught in a “dance of disconnection” with your partner that has become a habit neither of you can break.
Realizing that your partner’s steps are in reaction to your steps, and your steps, in turn, impact your partner is a breakthrough that will change everything between the two of you. Once your particular negative pattern is clear, it’s possible to learn and practice new steps that will lead to a “dance of connection.”
The model of therapy we use, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), has been subject to more than 30 years of research. “Developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment,… the EFT model prioritizes emotion and emotional regulation as the key organizing agents in individual experience and key relationship interactions.”
Each of our therapists has had at least ten years of post-graduate school experience in the field of mental health and we make our best efforts to match you to the therapist best suited to your needs. Our therapists are committed to creating a safe space for you and your partner so you can express yourselves without fear of judgment.
Life is hard enough—your relationship shouldn’t be. And when you take the time to do something about it, it doesn’t have to be. Couples therapy can break the negative patterns that have formed over time and restore the love and connection in your relationship