At your first joint session with Irene, she will help you gradually become comfortable talking about sex with each other—always proceeding at your pace, attuned to your comfort level. You will then each have an individual session with her to discuss specific questions about sexual history, sexual learning, current sexuality, and your concerns about sexual functioning. Joint sessions will resume thereafter.
Even when only one of you has a very specific concern, such as pain during intercourse, Irene will always encourage you to explore the impact this issue has on your partner as well as on your relationship. The goal is to have you and your partner become a team, even in dealing with sexual challenges only one partner is experiencing. It’s a lot easier to get through a challenge when your partner is encouraging, non-blaming, and part of the solution.
In ongoing sessions, you will discover sex is a whole lot more than the standard definition of intercourse. Sex therapy counselling can redefine your sexual activity from being an achievement program (i.e., strictly sexual intercourse with orgasm) to a sensual life of pleasure, fun, and intimate touch.
When you learn to broaden your definition of sex, it becomes bigger and fuller than just one act. By developing eroticism and intimate touch in your relationship, you will expand your idea of what satisfying sex looks like.