Wouldn't it be helpful if there was a mathematical formula that couples could shoot for as they consider their negative and positive interactions? Dr. Gottman, known for his careful research into couple interactions, has found [...]
Betrayal by a spouse is agonizing and mars every aspect of a marriage. Is affair recovery even possible? Statistics vary but studies show that infidelity does not have to signal a marriage's demise. The Rothrock's of [...]
“Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Do you remember that line? It’s from the seventies film Love Story. It is a catchy thought. But, it is a toxic one, too. The truth is, [...]
Consider Dan and Susan. Dan balances work deadlines and kids’ soccer games. Susan juggles a full time job, parenting responsibilities and a passion for community theater. Lately they’ve been arguing a lot. After the arguments [...]
Poets, song writers, and story tellers have long celebrated love, questioned love, and agonized over love. More recently scientists have begun to study love. Scientists are putting adult love under the microscope and making amazing discoveries [...]
I recently received this email: After five years of marriage, my husband and I had a baby boy one year ago. Our first five years were wonderful, but this past year has been a disaster. We used to be in love, but now we argue ...
Think back to the last fight you had with your spouse. Put aside the “what” you were fighting about and zero in on how you felt.
Were you “flooded” with intense emotion? Did you feel physically overwhelmed? Were your [...]
Jason hasn’t said much for the last few days. Sally, his wife, has talked quite a bit. Sally processes life by commenting on it verbally as it passes her by. Jason does his reflecting internally. He shares when asked, although sometimes Sally has to drag it out of him. Such is the normal ebb and flow of Jason and Sally’s marriage. It works quite well. Mostly [...]
Conflict is every marriage’s bedfellow. Unfortunately, conflict can become so intense that some couples eventually retreat behind walls of silence and isolation in the hope that this will resolve the conflict. It won’t [...]
There are many excellent books for couples therapists. Here are some of my favorites.