Far too many people imagine a responsive lover is someone who reacts well to sexual stimuli or their partner’s sexual desire. While responsive is defined as “reacting to suggestions, influences, appeals, or efforts”, a responsive [...]
So, you’re a committed couple. Congratulations! You live together. Great! But you're talking about sleeping in separate beds. And you're worried this will bode poorly for your relationship. Competing studies about this very issue come [...]
Is our marriage counsellor helpful? And is marriage counselling effective? Good questions! I'm sure many of the couples I work with had exactly those questions. Robert Ogner, a therapist in California, suggests you tackle these questions [...]
Is Parental Fighting Harmful? Does parental fighting mold an infant’s brain, affecting the way he or she deals with conflict later? Why do some children respond poorly when exposed to parental conflict, while others seem [...]
Is there such a thing as a compassionate instinct? Throughout much of history, there has been a general shared opinion that humans are selfish. Plato wrote that the body is a chariot being pulled by [...]
When children are born they develop an "attachment bond" with their primary caregiver/s. This bond shapes the brain of the infant, influencing self-esteem, expectations of others, and the general ability to participate in successful relationships. [...]
Communication habits between a couple are formed like most other habits, with patterns eventually established that are then hard to change. As with other bad habits, a pattern of poor communication can end up having [...]
Have you ever wondered what, exactly, makes for a good marriage? John Gottman, a researcher and marital therapist from the University of Washington, has for many years been studying what he calls the “Masters and Disasters” of marriage. He describes three features that good marriages have in common. I’d like to describe ...
1. Maintain appropriate "walls and windows". Keep the windows open at home. Put up privacy walls with others who could threaten your marriage. 2. Recognize that work can be a danger ...